For many women the women's submission
passages are difficult to accept. I must admit that I have trouble
with the "submission passages." There were times when I
skipped over these scriptures thinking that if I didn't read them, they
would not exist. Now is the time to face the passages squarely and
try to understand what Peter and Paul were trying to tell us. Were
they prejudiced against women?
Jesus spoke with and taught women.
He forgave women. He appreciated the kindness women had to offer
him. Jesus had friends who were women. Why do Peter and Paul
then seem to want to take the sharing of our experiences away from us in
passages in red seem to be different in nature. When Paul wrote
the scripture about single widowed women, he says it is from the Lord.
When he wrote the scripture about the head covering, he said all the
churches agreed on this.
scripture below tells us everyone is equal in Christ Jesus. Are
the submission passages Paul's opinion then and not from the Lord? Was
the purpose of the submission passages to establish an order within the
church function only?
you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many
of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is
neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither
male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus."
"Likewise you wives, be submissive
to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they,
without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives. When
they observe you chaste conduct accompanied by fear. (New
Wives, fit in with your husband's plans; for then if
they refuse to listen when you talk to them about the Lord, they will be
won by your respectful, pure behavior. Your godly lives will speak
to them better than any words. (Living Bible same verse
Women should listen and learn quietly and humbly.
I never let women teach men or lord it over them. Let them be
silent in your church meeting. Why? Because God made Adam
first, and afterwards he made Eve. And it was not Adam who was
fooled by Satan, but Eve, and sin was the result. So God sent pain
and suffering to women when their children are born, but he will save
their souls if they trust in him, living, quiet, good and loving lives.
Deacons wives must be thoughtful, not
heavy drinkers, not gossipers, but faithful in everything they do. (Timothy
But there is one matter I want to remind
you about: that a wife is responsible to her husband, her husband is
responsible to Christ, and Christ is responsible to God. That is
why if a man refuses to remove his hat while praying or preaching he
dishonors Christ. And that is why a woman who publicly prays or
prophesies without a covering on her head dishonors her husband (for her
covering is a sign of her subjection to him). 1Cor
But if anyone wants to argue about this,
all I can say is that we never teach anything else than this--that a
woman should wear a covering when prophesying or praying publicly in the
church, and all the churches feel the same way about it.
Honor Christ by submitting to each other.
You wives must submit to your husband' leadership in the same way you
submit to the Lord. For a husband is in charge of his wife in the same
way Christ is in charge of his body the church. (He gave his very life
to take care of it and be its Savior!) Eph 21-25
But remember that in God's plan man and
women. For although the first woman came out of man, all men have been
from women ever since, and both men and women come from God their
You husbands must be careful of
your wives, being thoughtful of their needs and honoring them as the
weaker sex. Remember that you and your wife are partners in
receiving God's blessings, and if you don't treat her as you should,
your prayers will not get ready answers. 1Peter
Treat older women as mothers and the
girls as your sister, thinking only pure thoughts them. 1Tim 5:2
And you husbands, show the same kind of love to your
wives as Christ showed to the church when he died for her, to make her
holy and clean, washed by baptism and God's Word: So that he could give
her to himself as a glorious church without a single spot or wrinkle or
any other blemish, being holy and without a single fault. That is
how husbands should treat their wives, loving them as parts of
themselves. For since a man and his wife are not one, a man is
really doing himself a favor loving himself when he loves his wife! Ephesians
Here I want to add some suggestion of my
own. These are not direct commands from the Lord, but they seem
right to me:
And if a Christian woman has a husband
who isn't a Christian, and he wants her to stay with him, she must not
leave him. For perhaps the husband who isn't a Christian may
become a Christian with the help of his Christian wife.
But if the husband or wife who isn't a
Christian is eager to leave, it is permitted. In such cases the
Christian husband or wife should not insist that the other stay, for God
wants his children to live in peace and harmony. For, after all, there
is no assurance to you wives that you husbands will be converted if they
stay; and the same may be said to you husbands concerning your wives.
It is the same with a girl who marries.
She faces the same problem. A girl who is not married is anxious
to please the Lord in all she is and does. But a married woman
must consider other things such as housekeeping and the likes and
dislikes of her husband.
I am saying this to help you, not to try
to keep you from marrying. I want you to do whatever will help you
serve the Lord best, with as few other things as possible to distract
your attention from him.
The wife is part of her husband as long
as he lives; if her husband dies, then she may marry again, but only if
she marries a Christian. But in my opinion she will be happier if
she doesn't marry again; and I think I am giving you counsel from God's
Spirit when I say this. 1 Cor 34-35 & 39-40.
After reading these passages carefully, I still have
more questions than answers. Seems to me all it is saying is
that we need to be submissive to each other. In any relationship,
there must be a leader; but I do not believe that Jesus would expect a
woman who is emotionally or physically abused to stay in a relationship.
If we love each other and are lead by the Holy Spirit, everything
will work for the glory of Jesus.
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